Now that we know the definition of safety and how it is implemented within a scene, let's explore the different types of safety.
Physical Safety
Physical safety is protecting the body from harm while partaking in and/or of activities you are, which also means knowing what you need to be aware of in a safety aspect. Let's take, for example, bondage. The location of pressure points should be known and aware so that the possibility of circulation getting cut off in the limbs, which we don't want.
As far as impact play, you should always be aware of the areas on the body you can and can not hit. Safety is also involved even when it comes to kneeling, things like any previous knee injuries, and also does their knees bother them. Because of the position the knees are in they have the potential to have low circulation, or fall to sleep, as we call it after being in the position for a while, so that also has to be taken into consideration. Regardless of the type of play that's being done, physical safety is involved in every aspect. Research and discussion must be done of the possible complications. Risk must be known and made aware of along with a plan of action in case of injury.
Emotional Safety
Emotional safety is where one feels safe, comfortable, and relaxed with their partner, the only way to ensure emotional safety for both partners is through open honest, and intentional communication. There must be the ability to trust that someone has your best interest and will be accountable for their actions and take responsibility versus placing blame. Negotiations can be made, and stating your wants and needs is also a way to help ensure emotional safety.
The ability to recognize possible verbal, physical, or emotional triggers coming from talking about them before is also a vital part of emotional safety. You should always advocate for yourself even when it's difficult, however, this is a must. If you don't look out for yourself then you can't expect someone else to advocate for you.
There are and will be times when. we are unaware we may have a trigger to something that's being done. This is where using a safeword comes into play. This use of a safeword not only protects you but also your partner when this occurs.
When a submissive becomes triggered and a safeword isn't used, it can be detrimental to not only the submissive, but it can also destroy the trust that the Dominant has in the submissive. So with that being said, Anytime you need to use them, use them! Safewords are the epitome of safety and trust. Don't be afraid to use your safe word. It's essential for the connection that is formed with your partner.